As some of you know, my husband and I getting a divorce. We've decided that it would be in the best interest of our four children that he has physical custody, with liberal visitation for me. We've also decided that Midnight, Star and Lucky will stay with him and the kids as we both think that the cats would be able to help our kids cope with the pending divorce. I know I'm going to miss my babies and even though I'll still be able to see them, they won't be with me...

I am thinking of adopting a cat or two once I get settled in my new place. But I'm not sure if I could do this because of the strong emotional attachment I have with my kitties, especially Star. If we had an even number of cats, then maybe I'd consider taking two and leaving two with the hubby and kids. Since there's three cats, I cannot see myself separating them. Midnight plays with Lucky; Lucky and Star play with each other; and Midnight tolerates Star.

If I do adopt, I would more than likely adopt 2 cats together, preferrably two that already know each other so I wouldn't have to worry about cat intros. But if I do adopt, would I be cheating on my babies? I love them so much, but knowing that they won't be in my new place with me tears me apart. Star won't be there to lay on my pillow and "groom" my hair as I drift off to sleep. Lucky won't be there to "talk" to me while I'm getting their food and water for them. And Midnight won't be there to "DEMAND" that I pick her and let her suckle on my shirt.

This is really upsetting me. :(

If it were me in this situation I would wait awhile and let all the emotions level out. Later on you could adopt a new cat or two, I don't see it as being unfaithful, at least you aren't splitting them up which I would think would be more of an emotional strain on the cats.

I agree completely with ElfinErv.

I met and have fallen in love with a ginger and white tom that I saw Sunday night when I went to get the Sunday paper. I'd say he's young one, maybe 5 or 6 months old and very intact. He's an absolute love muffin, too. He came up to me and let me give him head and chin scritches. He also put his head in my hand and "marked" his scent on me. He then jumped down off of the fence and proceeded to weave between between my feet and purring and meowing the whole time.

I'd love to keep him around and then when I move, take him with me. I don't think he belongs to anyone, though he did have a flea collar on him. I can't bring him into the house for a couple of reasons: 1) I don't know how his health is. I mean he looks extremely healthy, but I doubt very seriously that he's been vaccinated against anything. 2) I know, as I know my name, my husband will NOT allow it. To him, three cats are enough.

I was thinking I could just set up some kind of shelter for Rusty (as that's what I named him) on our patio. It's been rather rainy here in SoCal and I want to make sure that he at least has some kind shelter from the rain. But would it be feasible? Sure I could do all that, but would it guarantee that Rusty would stick around here for at least a month? I figure I should be moved out by then. If I could get Rusty to stay here and take him with me, I'd still have a Star-like kitty since Rusty is so loving and I have a feeling he'd be a serious lap kitty once he adjusted to me and wherever I'll be living.

What's a girl to do???